The Four Agreements cards, by Don Miguel Ruiz, provide daily inspiration to me; sometimes they touch my heart, sometimes they set off a little buzz in my ear. Today’s has provided me with both. Today’s Card comes from the Agreement, Be Impeccable with Your Word. It reads:
Replace Fear with Love
The human mind is like a fertile ground where seeds are continually being planted. When you are impeccable with your word, your mind is no longer fertile ground for the words that come from fear; your mind is only fertile for the words that come from love.
I was thinking about this earlier today, and I decided to look at my word, and its impeccability. Certainly, my mind has been fertile ground for words of fear for a very long time. In fact, my entire outlook was a combination of anger, which comes from fear, and fear itself. And much of that attitude arose from me being a big, fat liar. I was not ever impeccable with my word, even to myself. My stacks of lies got bigger and bigger, and I lived with the fear that, if I continued to lie, I could lose track of the truth forever.
But that never stopped me. As I have said before, I lied because I didn’t believe that anyone wanted to hear what I really had to say. Why would they? I felt so unworthy, and that feeling made me so fearful, that there was no fertile ground in my mind for the truth, or for any words of love.
And then, finally, everything changed. As suddenly as a snap of the fingers, I chose to be happy. And, involved in that was the choice to tell the truth — to be impeccable with my word. Suddenly, after years of reading these Four Agreements Card, I understood what they meant about impeccability.
Being honest, right, straightforward, impeccable with my word means that I no longer live in fear, because I have nothing to hide. One thing I know: by not lying about myself any longer, I no longer need worry about being caught by my own subterfuge. And removing fear and worry not only leaves room for love, but actually invites the love and happiness into me, by leaving an open space which is specifically fitted for love.
I tried for decades to shove the sadness and fear and anger into those spots, but I’m not surprised to find that first eliminating the fear automatically left that perfect slot open for love. So now, I love myself. Including all the ridiculous parts of me that I may now leave in the past. And loving myself contributes to my impeccable word — recognizing value in myself becomes even more of a reason to interact with the whole world with love.